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Front-loading Strategy
by Zan Z. Packard
What do I mean by front-loading? It's a technique that allows you to plan for contingencies in order to avoid misunderstandings or undue stress.
It's remarkably easy to do, but you really have to be aware of what your triggers are and how people are likely to respond to you. For example if you know that being on time is a challenge for you, front-load this fact to others so that they can have some input. Some won't be able to tolerate this; others will just appreciate knowing that it's you and not them; still others will be relieved because they are usually late too. This isn't about being right, only about being clear on who you are and what you want. That way, those around you can adjust or eliminate according to their needs.
What about the partner that loves to help and feels rejected if not allowed to? This might not be a problem if you enjoy being helped, but is a huge problem if you truly love doing things by yourself. By front-loading, you can express your needs, or choose to compromise...either way, your interaction comes from clarity and choice-not assumption and misunderstanding.
One last example has to do with vacations. This usually has everything to do with expectations. Vacations can be fun and relaxing, or a chore to endure, depending on what your wants and needs are, and if they're getting met. If you front-load your expectations to those who are joining you, then you can choose to come up with contingency plans before you leave. By doing this, everyone has a greater chance of having the vacation they want and need.
I'm sure you can see the possibilities in front-loading. Just look at your own triggers...and the triggers of those you spend time with. What about those situations can be front-loaded? Everyone wants to be heard and valued. Front-loading takes a big step in allowing that to happen.
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