How you think about your life is exactly the way your life will be. "But, Zan", you say, "I can't stop shitty things from happening to me, how have I created that?" You haven't. What you've created is how you feel about the shitty things, and how you feel will determine whether you respond thoughtfully or simply go into react mode. When we are the observers of our lives we can see choices of how we respond. However, when we react, we participate in the insanity. It's all choice and it begins with self-love.
You get to chose - Be in control of your life or be a victim. You don't have to like the shitty things happening around you, but you don't have to let them create your reality either. Choose wisely - because the choice is always yours.